Hi all its skilfullflower again just a follow up blog on my last child molestation blog .. I felt I needed to do this to clarify a few things, I believe in being nonjudgemental to victims of abuse but I sure as hell dont believe its ok to be a perpetrator of violence to another human being especially a child .. this vid explains in more detail what I am trying to say enjoy ....
while I have your attention about this issue may I also point out to you one thing .. that is ... people who abuse children are not only strangers in black coats who hang around parks in the bushes or public toilets .. they are trusted family friends relatives neighbours and people in trusted in charge of children employment .. I truely believe that the process to get these people behind bars should be alot less traumatic for the victims .. both as adults coming forward and children ..
And I also believe the jail terms these people get are PATHETICALLY SHORT , when the victim .. has these horrific memories for a lifetime ...
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Hi its skilfullflower again to speak about a topic that is a hard one yet I feel is worth taking the time to do its about child molestation, I would say on average 80 % or more bbw I know were victims of childhood abuse, spousal abuse or some kind of abuse .... Now I have done a verbal blog to go with this as it is easier to get across what I need to say verbally I am not a master writer never claimed to be lol ... the main thing I want people to realize is YOUR NOT ALONE ... many men and women of all shapes and sizes have been through horrific abuse ... now you can choose to let it ruin you or you can choose to let your past strengthen you ..
I do realize not everyone has the capacity to tackle this issue alone I do urge those of you who have difficulty coping to seek proffessional assistance I am in no way claiming to be a therapist or in anyway qualified to heal another human being ... BUT I can share my experience and some of the ways I used to get through, when I was at my lowest I am not ashamed to admit I sought help from a doctor and was put on medication to help me through a very dark time in my life when I was having flashbacks and immense trouble coping .. I CHOSE to seek help and I chose to live IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD ... others have been less fortunate than myself ... some due to underlying issues that choice to cope was taken out of their hands ... some manic depressant people feel they cannot seek help and some people have other underlying psychological or physical disorders that prevent them.. seeking help...
and to the people I have lost I dedicate this blog TO YOU
here is the verbal blog ...
I would also like to make mention that a VICTIM OF ABUSE is never and will never be responsible for the CRIME THAT WAS PERPETRATED ON THEM ... DO NOT KEEP THE SHAME ... HAND IT BACK TO WHERE IS BELONGS ... THE PREDATOR WHO HURT YOU !!
But I feel very strongly that within your own mind and the decisions you make you can start to reprogramme your brain to start to realize you are not trash ... you are not worthless ... you need to make a conscious decision to LIVE and don't mean only in a physical sense I also mean in a psychological sense, you can strive for a better life you can choose to allow the past to no longer control you ... you can choose to make your past a positive thing as it helped to mould you as a person .. and I know MOST if not ALL people I have known who have suffered DO become as they blossom beautiful compassionate people who DO CARE about other people enough to HELP when others may walk away and don't take the time .. as it is not within their realm of understanding.
This blog is one of many I am likely to post about this issue as it is a topic that is to close to me to ignore, what I have spoken about today is the tip of the iceberg... although it might take some time for me to redo this kind of post..
To all of the men and women out there BBW or not who have suffered ... THERE IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL . DON'T GIVE UP ON YOURSELF ... AND LIVE!!!
AND TO THE BBW OUT THERE WHO HANG YOUR HEADS IN SHAME LIFT YOUR HEAD UP HIGH AND REALIZE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL YOU MATTER YOUR SPECIAL NO ONE WHO HAS BEEN THROUGH ANY KIND OF ABUSE SHOULD EVER HIDE!
This is another one of my slideshow video's of pics
I used to reprogramme my brain that I was not a piece of meat
I am beautiful no matter
WHAT THEY SAY
THE PEOPLE WHO TRY AND SAVE ME AND OTHER BBW BY TRYING TO MAKE US LOOSE WEIGHT OR TRY AND MAKE US SOMETHING WE ARE NOT ... THIS IS NOT REQUIRED ..... AND TO THEM I SAY THANK YOU FOR YOUR INTEREST BUT NO THANKS..
I am my own person ... and will make my own decisions ... AND THAT ALSO GOES THE OTHER WAY I WILL NOT BE OFFENDED IF PEOPLE HAPPEN TO HAVE A DIFFERENT VIEW OR LIFE EXPERIENCE WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT!! IF WE WERE ALL THE SAME LIFE WOULD BE VERY BORING ~~~~~~~~~INDEED !!
Peace out all , have a wonderful day and be happy
SKILFULLFLOWER
IF YOU CHOOSE TO SHARE ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCES PLEASE FEEL FREE TO LEAVE A COMMENT !!!
I AM A BBW ... BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ....
who all her life has been degraded and made to feel like scum for even existing, made to feel like I am sub human even a monster .. and for along time actually believed it ..
then a miraculous thing happened I discovered PICS ... I started taking pics of myself and realized I wasn't that bad after all .. I took and used these pics for many years to boost my self esteem to boost my confidence ... I did it for ME no one else .. for ME ... I did NOT do it to try and attract a mate or to get sex ... I did it because I CHOSE TO ... NO MATTER IF I WAS SINGLE OR PARTNERED.. I STILL DID THEM.
I AM NOT UGLY AND I WILL BE DAMNED IF I WILL ALLOW A FATTIST SECTION OF SOCIETY TELL ME I AM .. this is me...
BUT EVEN I HAVE MY WEAK MOMENTS ..
THIS IS ALSO ME
I have recently encountered some people one in particular who believe bbw who post and or take pictures of themselves as I have done for years as degrading and putting our BOOBS up on public display like prize winning melons, and that single bbw should never do it NO they should hide and remain ashamed to that idea I say one thing ...
BULLSHIT if a single bbw chooses to do pics like I do I see NO HARM whatsoever, if a partnered bbw chooses to do it what on earth has it got to do with anyone else anyway ... as long as their partner is ok with your choices.. I MET MY MAN WHILE I RAN A BBW SITE WITH PICS ON DISPLAY..
I have always been and always will be a true believer that if you so choose to use any kind of pictures videos or ANY KIND OF SELF ESTEEM BOOST ... DO IT ... AND STUFF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ... and if you choose to be more conservative that's ok to .. not everyone is going to agree on everything that is a fact of life...
I am just one person with a belief .. a very strong belief in FREEDOM OF CHOICE!!
PUTTING A PIC UP OF YOURSELF IN LINGERIE OR SKIMPY CLOTHING DOES NOT MAKE YOU A TRAMP ..... in fact it shows a very big degree of self acceptance .. and there is nothing more sexy than a lady who is comfortable in her own skin showing her curves... and if they choose to take a pic in a bra or lingerie bathers or any choice of clothing they are comfortable in MORE POWER TO YOU I SAY... SCREAM TO THE WORLD I WILL NOT BE JUDGED BY SOCIETY'S BELIEF YOU HAVE TO BE THIN TO BE SEXY!!!
Yes when you choose to post these pics you will get male attention BUT it is what you do with that attention that makes you who you are, you can smile like I do and thank them for their kind words OR you can jump any man's bones who takes an interest .. for me I choose to smile and thank ... knowing I have in some way brightened someone's day ... IS THAT SUCH A BAD THING???? NO and I have also for many years been a inspiration to other bbw NOT TO BE ASHAMED and not to hide any more ..
yes it is true some men will try and prey on women who are open and honest and will hone in on women like me as they foolishy believe I am a easy target BUT your only a EASY TARGET if you allow yourself to be ... and that goes for single ... and partnered BBW and that also goes for our thinner counterparts who choose to put a pic up in a bikini or any item of clothing that is revealing ... a picture says a thousand words ... if you choose to be conservative fine whatever floats your boat I choose not to be .. that is my choice as a human being and I have that right to choose ... as a conservative lady has the choice to live how she see's fit ... and these two differing opinion have NO right to try and tell the other THEY ARE WRONG!!!
and one last thing I might add here ... this to me is an important message to get out MORE important than what clothes you choose to wear
have a good day everyone .. just started blogging so it is not exactly my forte yet but I will learn ....
